Why Long Distance Dating is the Answer . . . Or Not

Girls are attracted to the jerk, the bad boy, the guy who doesn't pay attention to them, or the unavailable. When they meet the guy who really, really likes them back and showers them with attention, they get bored because it can be irritating if you're not as into them as they are into you. I am going out on a limb here, but I am guessing that to a certain extent, guys feel the same way. This theory is based upon the attitudes of a couple of my good friends.

Because people are less attracted to someone who smothers them, a long distance relationship is perfect. You see each other for a couple of days at a time. By the time you are getting sick of all the togetherness, you are going your separate ways where you can live your own lives once again. You don't have to clear your schedule with the other person because they don't live there. You don't have to go to their work functions or hang out with their annoying friends. It is harder to get annoyed with them because they are so far away so you spend less time fighting when you are together. Yet you still have someone to call when you're having a bad day, need someone to make you laugh, and feel like flirting.

Although to be honest, I hate running errands by myself, I hate going to the grocery store by myself, I hate showing up at parties by myself, I hate not having someone to go to a movie with, I hate not having a date for a wedding, and I hate not having someone to travel with, or someone to go camping with, or skiing with, or play tennis with, or go golfing with. Don't get me wrong, I am perfectly capable and willing to do all those things myself (except maybe for playing tennis, that would be challenging). I would just prefer to have someone else to drag along.

So maybe long distance isn't the answer. Maybe just across town? Or the next town over?
Or perhaps when you meet the right person, none of this even matters.

In the meantime boys, keep in mind that there are a number of girls out there who like the chase just as much as you do. Don’t make it toooo easy.